The Insanity of Alcoholism - It is unfortunate to note that concerned people make efforts to prevent the alcoholics from facing the nemesis of their actions (enabling) or try to foretell their future actions (no crystal ball available).
There are a number of wise Proverbs among alcoholics who are in various stages of recovery. While some should be viewed with literal eyes, some should elicit deep reflections in you. Alcoholics anonymous refers to this phenomenon as "the insanity of our disease." This is the exact declaration. I can speak with you about comprehending the active alcoholic, however I can't make it have a meaning to you since comprehending the active alcoholic needs to be stripping away many sensible thought, the acceptance and enthusiasm to learn from errors, the capacity to identify understandable patterns of behavior, and very frequently, the use of common sense.
There are partly a hundred types of alcoholism. The conscious alcohol user, who is completely active, and has never experienced grievous loss, is the person I am referring to here. Overtime, they will come to lose these things as such is the nature of addiction and Jail, institution or death; the rule of three, is what awaits them in the long term. The ones addicted to alcohol believe, act and feel depending on mind-altered conditions or themselves and the things around them.
Either they live on the edge or there is no life. Within their world view they do not have any terms, which indicate moderation, no middle ground, no compromise or grey areas. In many cases, alcoholics live in denial of their destructive habits [self and others] and this habit among them further distorts the things that they are able to make sense of.
Reasoning and excuses to have it easier on themselves makes alcoholics believe that a lie is a reality therefore they are top liars. This is often a subconscious behaviour.
They are not aware that they are messing around with their lives.
Their language of communication makes lying to seem very harmless to those listening. "Probably" is one of the most commonly used words in this regard. It indicates the purpose that truly isn't there. When an alcoholic says they will probably do something is very improbable they will do it. These words are ambiguous; they are a way out to keeping the word given and committing. The alcoholic loves words and sentences such as probably, perhaps, might, can, must, I'd love to, I wish to, I should do. These words have no meaning. The way they sound is positive but the true intention is not there. Everything about the alcoholic including their relationships, social interaction, progress, and their entire life are negatively affected by alcoholism.
It is like looking down a tunnel only being able to see in one direction - this is the view that some alcoholics have. They have to focus on something specific because although they want to pay attention to several things they practically can't.
When an alcoholic attempts to multitask, all you end up with is a mess. For the active alcoholic, no balance exists. Since one part of their life reduces, they will frequently concentrate their mind on it and take it to an extreme. Other aspects of their lives will be failing as they keep their attention on the first thing and before long, they'll simply be trying to attend to the problem that has them most worried at any given moment much like "firehouse management". This is clearly a downward spiral, although some alcoholics manage to maintain a degree of control over it for a long time.
Alcoholics will develop the ability to conceal information about their consumption volume and timming as the addiction deepens. They will give you information that they only had three glasses of wine, which will be the truth. But they haven't confessed how big each glass was. By indulging in such actions alcoholics do not understand that while their problem with the drinking remains hidden there also making an attempt to hide the negative effects of alcohol within their lives. Alcoholics often develop what is termed as counsellors as an external locus of control. Over time, someone else is to be blamed for everything. If they are not doing well with their job, it is because their boss hates them. If their marriage suffers for any reason, the spouse is considered as unreasonable. Whenever they don't succeed as parents, they will see as it's their kids's fault for being selfish.
They will find a cause for drinking in anything and everything.The spiralling alcoholic will often make comments that they are not interested in drinking but their circumstances such as a horrible job, spouse and kids make it impossible for them to live without alcohol.
Alcoholics constantly have a strange feeling of entitlement. For them, their immature, selfish and irresponsible actions are justified by the stress and hard times they experience in life. You will think that the people around them are indebted to them when you see them act. The active alcoholic becomes very involved in self-pity and confirms tat they are sufferer of life. Since they request more from the world, they hope less and less from themselves.
The word "Screw it" is actually their fastest path to destroying themselves. The meaning is that they can go ahead and drink since everything is already damaged. One of the things that recovering alcoholics are encouraged to see is that the damage they are causing is mostly to themselves. This is evident in "it's not worth it." On many occasions, the alcoholic is aware of the truth, but they usually work hard not to understand it. They pretend and demand that all is well and try to convince those close to them into buying the fantasy. Their daily routine becomes less about the normality about life and more about focusing on their appearances. This has been explained adequately in pink's song "family portrait." "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Alcoholics are considered as master manipulators and despite not having been con artists before they develop the problem of alcoholism, they display remarkable skills at manipulation. Their level of manipulation will enable them to get what they want no matter how hard. They will have an argument with you as they wish to leave and they will make you believe it's your mistake. The skill of accountability is completely lost in them. They will demonstrate an almost total lack of integrity even if they had been the most transparent of people before their addiction. Every alcoholic has a single exception to this rule, which is one thing which they do exceptionally well, and it will in most cases be their sole-source of self-esteem. There are many workers that are alcoholics and are very serious with their job but on the side are consuming their drink.
Slowly but surely, a person will lose everything they care about to alcoholism We have been requested too many times if alcoholism is really a illness or an option. The fact is that it is both. As a disease alcoholism is unique because it cannot just hide from you, but it also lies to its carrier about the presence it has. As it connects to all other sicknesses, there is a peculiar choice for the active addict. The alcohol addict may face remission at any period and many do. Most times, in the bid to show those around them that they are not addicted, the addicts will stop drinking for some time, and will also get back to drinking after some time, in the bid to punish them.
Retrieval from alcoholism includes more than abstinence. Recovery from alcohol addiction includes modifying each aspect of someone's life. The one who just stops consuming alcohol is what we mention as a "dry drunk" indicating that they are each bit as unhealthy, they have just quit drinking - a little percentage of population maintain this long period. My professional opinion states that real recovery is only made possible by the program adopted by alcoholics anonymous. There are many important aspects associated with the AA program but their prominence can't be exaggerated. Friends and relatives of alcoholics undergoing treatment must assist them all through. Many alcoholics don't escape their addiction due to the enabling influence of their friends and families which prevents them from seeing the real consequences of their addiction.